The following are some tips and tools for men from lifestyle coach Docandwriter on how to connect with women.

Should you offer to buy her a drink?
"No, not right away, or else you're the third guy that night in a long line of guys offering to buy the woman a drink only for her looks, without getting to know her. What happens? She takes the drink, talks for a little bit, then leaves you. Only buy her a drink after you have gotten to know her first, and then, only because you want to, not to earn her favour.

Using pickup lines?
"Unfortunately, pickup lines don't work, as demonstrated time and time again. It's more important that the guy is interesting, charming, curious, whatever. He needs to have something there to support whatever comes out of his mouth."

A good opening line?
"How about "Hey guys, can I have a female perspective..."

Being honest and saying she is beautiful
"Works very well, but the man must have a game plan. Meaning he can't rely on one or two traits to get her emotionally excited. He must lead her through a series of emotional experiences."

Appearance
"A man who is well groomed and dresses well will make a favourable first impression, which is very important. Eighty per cent of what we think of people when we first meet them is formed visually."

Body language
"The more relaxed the man is, the more this communicates to the woman that he is a man of quality, and his relaxed body language will in turn make her relaxed."

Kissing
"When there comes a time in your interaction with a man, or woman, where everything is going very well and you guys are moving closer together with sexual tension, and you wonder if you should have kissed that person a few seconds ago... the answer is probably yes, you should have."