Get schooled in what women want

Ah, Valentine's Day. One of Ringo's favourite holidays, especially with all those various naughty cards, penis-shaped chocolates and bundles of long-stem red roses to decorate my boudoir . . . all those yummy opportunities for lingerie and fur-lined handcuffs and tasty massage oils . . . Darlings, it's making me want to call in Cupid already!

But who am I kidding? Not every Valentine's Day has been a happy one for poor Ringo. I remember one particularly lonesome year, when the object of my affections decided, on February 13, to call it quits. And another when I really, really wanted a date, but just didn't make the call in time. By the time I got her on her cell, she was on the way to Mazatlan with the buff bunny from her fitness class. See, Darlings? Even if you're Ringo, you snooze, you lose.

But what about the many charming guys out there who just really want to meet someone, and even when they don't snooze, they still lose? I keep hearing about how many single women there are in this city, and how few single men, but I have a feeling that the numbers aren't actually all that far apart. I think it's just a matter of guys needing to get their horny little butts off the couch or the golf course or the weight benches and into meeting mode.

But how, you whine? Why should I bother?

Darlings, you can answer that better than me. But if you're looking for some tips on how to score a date, you might want to investigate what one mysteriously named guy called Docandwriter has to say for himself. Billing himself as a "seduction expert," this real-life pick-up coach offers workshops for guys who want just a bit of extra help in meeting the woman of their dreams. I e-mailed with him recently, and here's what he had to say:

Moi: How did you become a seduction expert?
 
Docandwriter (don't call him Doc!): I became an expert through my observations of women, and my own experience with women. There came a point where I had studied what other people have done to attract and seduce the opposite sex, from the great seducers of history, to the natural seducers we see around us today, when I became good enough myself, as evidenced through my interactions with women.
But I pushed further. I have a natural interest towards human dynamics, so instead of learning only the "how," I questioned the "how and why." From there, I slowly became better, and learned more from women, to the point now where I know what women are trying to tell men.

Moi: What kind of training did you have?

D: Wow, tough question. In terms of attraction and seduction, I started studying Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), a grey area of psychology that dealt with persuasion, in 1999. From there, I became very good with women and discovered a secret underground community of seducers and pick-up artists. I eventually studied everything that this community had to offer, but found that I wasn't happy with it. So I removed myself from the community and coincidentally became very good at performing and networking in my other interests, the music industry. There came a point when I got back into the community and then met some of the top people in it and was able to share ideas with them, which enabled me to come to realizations about my own skills. And of course, I'm always still learning with each and every interaction I have with women.

Moi: What do you cover in your seminars?

D: I teach people the reality of male-female dynamics, the biology of attraction. I teach them how to create and continue a conversation, I teach them a game plan to meeting the opposite sex and getting a second meet and phone number. I teach them to look within themselves and realize that to attract the opposite sex, they have to take care of themselves first.

Moi: What, in your opinion, is the biggest obstacle to two people getting together?

D: The biggest obstacle is the fear of rejection and humiliation. Who needs that?

Moi: How can people overcome that obstacle?

D: It would be so much easier to love if people didn't put up barriers! People should relax more.

Moi: What kind of success stories can you share with me and my readers?

D: Hmmm . . . I shouldn't really say, out of respect of my student's privacy. Let me say this, I have not had a single failure. Every student I've had has met their goal.

Moi: What's your best piece of advice to someone who repeatedly strikes out?

D: Figure out what is it that you are doing that is turning people off, and examine why you are doing it. You may need someone to help you, a friend to tell you, or a coach to correct you.

Moi: What motivates you to do your work?

D: I love it when someone has a breakthrough and realizes that everything in life is about people and feeling.

Moi: What's your ideal date?

D: I love to have a smooth and fun, low-key adventure with lots of cuddling and kissing.

Moi: What else should I and my readers know about you and your presentation?

D: What else? This is a new men's movement. While women have had Oprah and magazines, men have had nothing. What I am teaching men is basically to be nice to women, to really listen to what she wants, which may not necessarily be what she says, and to care.
Well, Darlings, there you have it. I'm not so sure if the Big D is right when it comes to that last statement about what women want, but he does say he's an expert. You can find out more about his upcoming workshop, February 11 in Victoria, at www.seductionboard.com.
And best wishes for Valentine's, Darlings. If nothing else, know that Ringo loves you. M
ringowilde@yahoo.ca