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It's Ok to Say "Excuse Me" to a Girl During one my outings with some clients, I met a young man (no need to name him) whom I sent into a set of two girls sitting against a railing facing the dance floor. I watched as he approached, planted himself behind the girls and then scare one of them enough for her to jump an inch off her seat as he began to talk to them. He quickly plowed through and stayed in set until another guy came and AMOG'd him out. He asked me what I thought later and I pointed out that his opening scared the girls. He asked for an alternative way to open them, as they were facing away from him and I told him there are several ways to open. He could have started with "excuse me", or "hey guys" for example (we didn't talk about the logistics of opening or why it doesn't really matter what the opener is, what more important is what you do before and during the opener). He was pretty surprised at the concept of saying "excuse me" to a girl. That is what this post is about. There seems to be a common understanding that saying 'excuse me' or 'sorry', or in some cases being polite, to a girl is bad thing. This is yet another thing that is propagated by the seduction community that is wrong and subscribing to this idea will not allow you to reach a high level in your seduction. This likely came about when one hurt, new, keyboard jockey with no actual experience with women heard about some naturals saying that they must take control of the girl and not supplicate to her or buy her drinks, or do anything for her, and this keyboard jockey started teaching other keyboard jockey's this and then it became dogma. It's true that for some guys, this is a part of their game, a part of the overall picture that they are doing. But when did not being civil become a rule for newbies in the community? Consider this, if someone (guy or girl) is trying to interrupt you to get your attention and talk to you, would you prefer that he excuse himself first, or do you prefer that he just barrel in on your conversation and start barking at you? Also consider the great seducers of the past and of today, let's take George Clooney, for example. Very alpha guy known for bedding many women. Do you think he has taken 'excuse me' from his vocabulary? I have tons of videos of natural guys and none of them are so abrasive as to be rude. In fact many of them apologize to the girl for something to create vulnerability or comfort in the videos. Think about that. It's true that you do not want to be a wuss and beta yourself to a girl. But it's not what you say that will do this, from my (direct and natural) standpoint, it's who you are, how you do it, what attitude do you have, and how much (confidence) believe you have in your ability to attract and seduce women that will show a girl that you are someone of value to her. Go on to find out about our courses.
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