A friend of mine smoked way too much weed at university (I wonder how he got in) and did too much Ecstasy at raves. As a result, he is now a dumb 33 year old. How dumb is he? He is so dumb that we when go to restaurants I always ask for separate checks because it’s beyond his capacity to divide the total by two without a calculator. Sometimes he can’t even divide the total WITH a calculator.
I know a woman who always told me that she thought she was dumb because she never received a proper high school education. I took what she said at face value and for many years I believed her, until I realized one day that she pulled a fast one on me – she’s actually quite intelligent but just has no need to show it. Or perhaps she truly was dumb and unaware in the former half of her life, but today I can spot that her social emotional intelligence is actually quite high and she now has a good understanding of what makes the world go around. In actuality, had she been given the chance to learn, she would have been quite brilliant.
Why do I mention these two examples? In the first, someone who was normal made himself dumber, while in the second, someone with low education made herself wise through experience and maturity. I cite these because they illustrate how people make themselves into who they are today. Neither happened in the past nor what circumstances you find yourself in when you start necessarily dictates your outcome in life.
I see the same thing with seduction. No one, no matter how famous or successful he is with women today, was born with a packet of condoms in his hand. At some point in his life, usually early on, women became of interest, then a passion for him, and he sought to educate himself about the ways of women. Which means he stuck his neck out, took huge risks and got rejected more times than he’d like to count before things started to click for him. He made himself into a seducer.
One common history that I’ve noticed with all successful seducers is that at one point in his life (or more likely, at several points) he was confused about women. The only thing that kept him from joining the ranks of men who can’t get dates I that he didn’t throw his hands up and give up as the majority of men do, he saw this as an opportunity to learn something new to bring him closer to his goal of understanding and seducing women.
I can confidently relate that this is in my life. I attribute who I am and much of my success today to the many times I’ve hit rock bottom in my life (in the double digits in my 20’s alone). Hitting rock bottom is when you reach the lowest point of your life, you feel nothing is going right and you consider giving up – but you don’t. Soon in my latter 20’s, I began looking forward to hitting rock bottom because these became periods when I had tremendous astronomical growth. I also regularly do quarterly self-assessments of myself which helps me progress, but it is my major dips that give me the major paradigm shift I need to deeply self reflect and revise what is going on in my life.
Using the two examples above, I can definitely use the second example of the woman as a metaphor for how I became successful with women.
Given all the rejection and disappointment I had while growing up, I could have given up on women long ago. I guarantee that I’ve been rejected more times by women than the average male and could have decided to like a monk -in solitude- and spend my nights watching internet porn. But instead I took the hits, pushed through the pain, got up and got knocked back down again until I reached a point (five years from when I started), when I realized that I had so much understanding and learned so much from these experiences that I had become quite decent with women.
Today, my life is a much different story. Three women have proposed marriage to me so far, women regularly chase me, I turn down sex, and some of my old girlfriends have come back into my life. I can now control this aspect of my life and can choose what I want out of my relationships.
I’ve also made other men into seducers as well. I’m proud of the fact that I’m the only Attraction Coach in Canada to have clients who are in long term relationships or married. Some of my past students and clients are now teaching men. I’ve been able to help men realize their attractiveness to women and thus have choice in life for their relationships
The take away here is that no one is born seductive to women, however you can choose to make yourself into a seducer by the actions you take in your life. Are you willing to push through the pain and do what it takes or should I get you a calculator?
Best,
Ronald Lee
www.manmeetswoman.com
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